I’m reading one of the best books I’ve ever read titled Tribe: on Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger (get it from Amazon here: http://amzn.to/2cq74R9). I am simply blown away by how wonderful and powerful his reasoning is. This is the main point I take from it:
During the millions of years that humans evolved to be who we arebnow, it was tribal living that determined which branch of early hominids (pre-humans) lived and died. Whole tribes (and therefore the members of that tribe) survived and were selected by their ability to stick and work together. Tribes that behaved as a cohesive whole and adopted an ethics of generosity and mutual support made it through the hard times and those that were the most individualistic, did not. Fifty people working together like they had one beating heart could endure almost anything, whereas a small group of individuals working independently had no hope.
He presents an idea that I had never heard before, that those pre-humans who were in tribes that were devoted to mutual support evolved in such a way that dopamine and serotonin levels in their brain were elevated by that kind of human connection. In other words, it felt good to be so interconnected to other humans. Because it felt good, they did more of it and their tribe survived. Tribes that did less of it died out.
By serving you, I made my survival and happiness much more likely.
As a modern example, he cites men at war who have the “Band of Brothers” effect. It’s common knowledge that when we go through a severe and lengthy trauma with a small group of people, there is a connection developed among them that surpasses nearly any other, a connection that is based on utter devotion and self-sacrifice to the other members of the community. Each was gladly willing at any moment to give anything and everything (including his life) for the others–and therefore more of them survived.
Basically, the hunter-gatherer tribes that held generosity and sacrifice for each other as their highest moral value (and selfishness as the greatest evil) survived everything nature threw at them and also did it with the most joy possible. (At the bottom of the page, I’m going to include a quote from the book about this I think is the most brilliant things I’ve ever read about human behavior.)
He says that attitude of mutual dependence and service for others developed among some branches of human evolution and not among others. In our branch, Homo Sapiens, it developed the strongest–therefore we survived while the others died out. Nature selected us to be mutually supporting and self-sacrificing people.
I call that an attitude of “One for all, all for one.” You don’t have to choose between freedom and individuality versus the group as a whole–by following our instinctive DNA we can easily have both. That’s my goal in everything I do, to build a tribe of people that treasure freedom and individuality, but equally supports each other, not from duty, but from the sheer joy of being mutually connected.
I’m going to get many letters condemning this thinking as liberal, socialist or communist. I’m none of those things, I reject them all and have adopted Tribalism instead.
There is nothing natural about our extreme individuality and hatred for tribal living (just the opposite, evolution made you to be tribal) the reason so many of us hate that kind of thinking is that modern religion has indoctrinated us with the poison of the Puritan ethic of “If he won’t work, he shouldn’t eat.” That attitude is 100% opposed to your evolutionary DNA and explains why those people are so unhappy and have to attack and condemn everyone who thinks differently than they do. (I will also be attacked as an atheist–I am not! I 100% believe in Intelligent Design. I simply reject all modern religions and have adopted the spirituality of our ancient ancestors instead–Animism.)
There’s a reason why I bring this up now–one of our tribe has fallen into hard times and needs our help. I’m going to let her explain her situation here by reprinting her blog post. To get to know her better, check out the video I made of her at the last RTR at the bottom of the page.
She has set up a https://www.gofundme.com/2n78bng account and I encourage each of you to consider making a small contribution towards getting her out of her predicament. Here is her blog post in italics:
This is perhaps one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, and I’ve been vacillating over it for about five weeks now.
As some of you know, I’ve been a Nomad for almost thirteen years living mostly in mid-sized SUV’s. In all that time, the most help I’ve had to ask for was assistance to change a tire once, and a big push when I got stuck in the worst kind of wet clay in Nine Mile Canyon, UT. My most recent SUV was a Mitsubishi Montero Sport, and her name was…wait for it…Mitzi! She is the star in most of the posts I’ve published on this blog up to August 2016. You may notice that I’m talking of Mitzi in the past tense, that’s because Mitzi’s life has come to an abrupt end, and it’s left me in a very difficult situation.
For the past two years I’ve been considering getting a vehicle/home with more space. In part this is because I’m getting older, but also because I have some injuries in my spine that may require surgery in the not-too-distant future. These injuries have made it difficult for me to work and save money, so I’m not exactly rolling in dough, but I’m not able to get disability yet. It’s a tough spot to be in.
Anyhow, in order to buy another vehicle I needed to sell Mitzi, but I was living in herand I needed her to use while I was looking for a replacement vehicle; It was a logistical nightmare. So a dear friend agreed to loan me the money to buy a vehicle with, on the understanding that I would pay him back as soon as I sold Mitzi.
So on July 26, my friend drove me to Denver International Airport in Mitzi so I could fly to Austin, TX, to look at an AWD Astro Van that was a steal compared to prices in the Front Range area of Colorado.
I hopped on the plane, flew to Austin, bought the van, and drove it back to Estes Park all in a couple of days, oblivious to what had happened on my friends drive back to the mountains.
When I got back to my friends house on the 27th, I noticed Mitzi was parked at an odd angle in the driveway, and that’s when he told me the story:
Apparently she had just died on the interstate, with no warning at all. He managed to roll onto the shoulder (barely), but she wouldn’t start. He had AAA+, and had her towed all the way to Estes Park where she was resting. I was horrified by this news, as was my friend; the timing couldn’t have been any worse, it was almost impossible to comprehend.
I was very surprised by this failure, which appeared to be the timing belt, because I’d had a new tensioner and timing belt put on just three years prior and a ton of other work (and still owe money on). I got in touch with the garage that had done the work, hoping it would be under warranty, and three weeks later I learned the truly bad news. It was the BOLT that held in the new tensioner that had broken, and it wasn’t a warranty part.
After replacing the timing belt again, we learned that the damaged belt had bent the pistons, which damaged the valves, which had destroyed the engine!
My little road warrior had suddenly turned to a heap of useless metal and plastic, and I was left with a loan I have no way of paying, and which is due now.
I considered all the options, like replacing the engine, but after doing all the research and considering the expense, it just wasn’t worth it financially. I wouldn’t gain a thing.
So now I owe my friend money; Money I promised to pay him back quickly. His kindness in helping me has turned into a nightmare for him as well as myself, and I want to fulfill my promise to him, and pay him back as much as I possibly can. It would take me ten-years or more to pay him back otherwise, because I’m not able to work full-time.
I’ve considered selling my new van and paying him back, but that would leave me entirely homeless. If I didn’t have the back injuries I have, I’d probably welcome moving into a backpack, but I can’t carry one right now, so it’s simply not an option. I’m facing an uncertain future with regards to my ability to work, so having long-term debt is not an option for me.
So this is where YOU come in, and where my request for help comes to play.
I want to pay my friend back as much as I can, and keep my home on wheels, so I’ve created a GoFundMe account, and I’m asking for your help in dealing with this financial nightmare.
I know that many of you are on tight budgets like myself, but if you can spare just $5 it will all add up. Anything you can spare will help, and in return I promise to pay-it-forward in any way I can. It may not be financially, but I will do what I can to help others, whenever I get the chance. This is something I truly believe in, and live by.
I’ve been told that one of the hardest things to do is to ask for help. I can confirm that it is true, and I thank you for your understanding of my situation, and send a HUGE thank you ahead of time to all of you that make a contribution to this cause, and if you’ve helped anyone is the past, thank you for that also.
I have made a YouTubeVideo of this request also…
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU.
Roxy ~ A Nomad for Nature
- Here is the link to the GoFundMe Donation Page: gofundme.com/2n78bng
- My request on YouTube: https://youtu.be/iLljjUHvjIc
- Here is a link to my for sale post on Craigslist where Mitzi is for sale. If you know anyone that might be interested in buying her for parts, or can fix her for themselves cheaply, please share. I’ve been offered $90 for her from a scrap yard, it would be nice if I could sell her for a bit more than that: http://eastco.craigslist.org/cto/5758512997.html
I’m making Videos on my good friends James YouTube Channel. See them here:
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A quote I love from Tribe: on Homecoming and Belonging by Sebastian Junger:
“When a person does something for another person … they are rewarded not only by group approval but also by an increase of dopamine and other pleasurable hormones in their blood. Group cooperation triggers higher levels of oxytocin, for example …. Both reactions impart a powerful sensation of well-being. Oxytocin creates a feedback loop of good-feeling and group loyalty that ultimately leads members to self-sacrifice…. “
“Hominids that cooperated with one another–and punished those who didn’t–must have outfought, outhunted and outbred everyone else. These are the hominids that modern humans are descended from.”
This quote explains why modern, civilized people are so full of misery (want proof, look at the wars, hatred, addiction, depression, suicide, abuse, obesity, stress-related diseases and too many more societal ills to list). We are the most alienated and individualistic people to ever live and by living that far removed from our evolutionary path and DNA we are guaranteed to end up miserable and lonely people.
For the first time, it also explains to me why I am so happy to devote all of my energy and almost every moment of my life to spreading the word of nomadic, tribal living–the flood of dopamine and oxytocin that comes from it make me very happy and gives me a sense of well-being I am hopelessly addicted to!