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Women Only: Safety on the road - sexual assault
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(07-27-2017, 07:48 AM)Snow Gypsy Wrote: "... First ranting about men and then moving on to be critical of women ..."

The way I'm seeing it is:

women processing previous (uncomfortable (to put it mildly)) experiences with men,
while raising awareness with (possibly starry-eyed) women that are being presented with a Pollyannaish view of off-the-grid life.

Looking forward to practicing some self-defense with y'all! Big Grin
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You misstepped Slow and entered the ladies room. We are nekkid ... everyone grab your towels!!!!!
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(07-27-2017, 07:48 AM)Snow Gypsy Wrote: First ranting about men and then moving on to be critical of women like me, NOPE!

Snow you are certainly naive or have your head in the sand. When you have heard and seen so many of us tell about such horrendous things you want to bully us or deny such things happen? All the time? You have gone thru life unscathed and unaware and you should be very grateful for that because, in a snap, that can change. We are just trying to bring the plight of many to the forefront.
Have a little sympathy for your sisters who haven't been as lucky as you.

We aren't ranting about men in general at all. Only those who choose to be monsters. We all have or have had good men in our lives we wouldn't trade for anything.

Critical of women like you? Not really. We are just hoping for a little empathy.

I can't recall if you said you carry or not but I believe it gives women - and men - a false sense of security. Do we believe the thugs that will do us harm have no weapons available also? What if there are two or three or a gang?

Our most highly trained soldiers will tell you a lot about being ambushed. Both sides may have a weapon but an attacker has the element of surprise. We also gotta sleep sometimes

Peace.
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#34
I raised three children (one boy and two girls) to adulthood being ever vigilant with their safety. I did this because I was violated multiple times by various men around my family of origin. I have always been on hyper alert to any nuance around my children. Now the three are grown and I have a small child again. Like before, I am protecting my little man with all my might.

I will be venturing out on the road alone with my little man. All men will be kept at a distance from my child. Do I worry about myself? I don't know. Sometimes I think to myself what else could actually happen that hasn't been done before? I hope you all understand what I mean by that. There is nothing, at this point, that I wouldn't do to protect myself and my child. Does this make me a 'bad' person. NO. That is the mentality that needs to change.

I always practice situational awareness. I am teaching my son to trust his gut. Some people just make you feel icky or they try to be tricky - at 5 this is what he understands.  I have thought about locks on the RV. I'm still trying to figure out what would be the best defense in that regard. I've also thought of not being entirely remote and removed from all others. Make sure more then one person is near for an 'in case' situation.

Lastly, a dog. Not just any dog. A dog for protection. That is my last defense to keep my son and myself safe.

What is most disheartening about all of this is that we, as women, have to take these extra precautionary steps that men don't give a second thought to to protect their person-hood. By this I mean the vary nature of being female and the fact that men try to have power over women. Of course not all men and yet even in slight ways the most mild meek men do to. How many times have you as females been cut off in speech by a man who takes over your 'story'. Man-splaining. It is a thing and it is indirectly another affront to women to 'put' them in their place.

So, if any of you women have an idea for door and window locks, please let me know.

It just seems we, as women, need to be strong, aware, and trusting of our own gut feelings. If it feels off, then it is off. Cheers.

And thank you for this thread and most of all thank you to WalkaboutTed for expressing exactly what being female is like. I'm still drying the tears as you touched my heart.
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Eoewan: It is said that the two things that criminals try to avoid are dogs and lights.

You're already thinking about the dog. Some people think about dogs that will attack on command, which is usually a bad idea. You send a dog out, the perp shoots, tazes or stabs it, your protection is gone. The value of a dog is in it's sense of smell and hearing, to give warning.

Lights: I've never done it, but I am considering surrounding my rig with solar LED lights. With the lights off inside, you might have a better chance of seeing someone approach, or what is approaching.
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A motion light would be good. I want to see the bear before he tears the door off the hinges...


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#37
SnowGypsy: "First ranting about men and then moving on to be critical of women like me, NOPE!"

WHY? Because of your attitude that because nothing has happened to you, it's because you did such a great job of protecting yourself, and others didn't? That it was their own fault that something happened? Are you perhaps confusing your superior attitude with just plain Dumb Luck?

Well, I hope your good luck continues.
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#38
I have just reread this thread in case I missed something.

Queen: "... it brings out a loud thread about men being left out ... the very idea of having a thread they aren't permitted to post in, and they cannot allow that. It makes me just not want to post here at all, hell being asked to be left alone in a tiny corner of the internet is a small thing, and yet even that small thing cannot be respected, how are we EVER supposed to expect them to respect us anywhere. *sigh*"

It is caused by the very crux of the whole problem: CONTROL.

Many men seem to think that their sex bestows the Right of Control. TOTAL control: what we should do, what we should think, what we should/shouldn't wear, the decisions we make, the kind of car we should buy, the food we should eat, how we should spend our money, how short/high to cut the lawn, stuff we should get rid of, abortion rights, when we should want sex, why we are or aren't smiling... it goes on forever. Many of them have no idea what they're talking about, but they always have an opinion on what we should do. I was told by one woman -- GET THIS! -- that her boyfriend wanted to control her mentrual cycle!

AbuelaLoca: "I'm already wondering what those who read and don't respond think of me after my posts!"

It. Doesn't. Matter. I’m not responsible for what other think, and neither are you. If they can think. Far too many people are so lacking in brains or sense or decency that catering to their whims and opinions is purely a waste of time.
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Trainchaser I sure respect your post and I think we really need to specify again and again we are not talking about all men or men in general. That really gets hair raised and stomps on feelings.

Thankfully I haven't run into too many super controlling men at all. I like a strong leader in a man but certainly not a bully like what you are referring to. I sorta don't care if a man takes charge and don't really want to take control of anything myself. Suits me fine if I don't have to make a bunch of decisions about everything. I'm seriously laid back.

I also want my women's privileges so I guess it works out well for me. A weaker man is doomed around me. Give me an alpha anyday. Again - not a bully!!!


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(07-27-2017, 10:35 AM)eoewan Wrote: I will be venturing out on the road alone with my little man. All men will be kept at a distance from my child.

eoewan,  I'm sorry for you, and all of us, who have had to suffer from sexual assault.  Regarding protecting your son from men, there are female sex abusers too, unfortunately.   Undecided
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