Thread Rating:
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
Men Just Don't Go There
#21
(08-18-2017, 09:58 PM)Every Road Leads Home Wrote: After 4 marriages I'd say you're the only common denominator! Not that i'm judging, I'm the common denominator in many failed long term relationships as well.

Someone call the BURN WARD and report a serious buuuurrrrnnnnn!!!! Lol, I hope GS at least chuckles at your comment. Heheh. 8-)
96 Dodge Ram Van 3500 360 5.9L
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to Wabbit for this post:
JustACarSoFar (11-10-2017)
#22
I am the UNCOMMON denominator.   Wink


Attached Files Thumbnail(s)
   
Trouble rather a tiger in his lair than a sage at his books. To you kingdoms and armies are mighty and enduring, to him they are toys of the moment, to be overturned with the flick of a finger. G Dickson.
Add Thank You Reply
The following 2 users say Thank You to GotSmart for this post:
Ballenxj (08-19-2017), Wabbit (08-18-2017)
#23
(08-15-2017, 09:29 PM)wagoneer Wrote: One great lesson I learned from my mother was her ease to show her vulnerable and "soft" side the "not sure what to do side" and having been chastised ridiculed and at times humiliated often wonder why is this so? I want to believe we are all on a journey to learn.
Wagoneer, this is a friendly place, if you ever want to try your "soft side", I think you will be safe here, and remember, there is a lot of strength in being real, and showing your human, not always perfect side.   Smile
Add Thank You Reply
#24
(08-18-2017, 10:10 PM)Almost There Wrote: It took me many failed relationships to figure out that my 'picker' was broke... Big Grin Angel

Since I haven't figured out how to fix it, I quit using it!

 Me too! My picker is retired...
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to Sleep for this post:
JustACarSoFar (11-10-2017)
#25
(10-30-2017, 02:55 PM)Sleep Wrote:  Me too! My picker is retired...

LOL - My 'picker' is also broke so I too have quit using it. I don't blame all men though for the most part I love em, even the ones that weren't a good match for me.
Add Thank You Reply
#26
I don't have a soft or vulnerable or not sure what to do side. The School of Hard Knocks started very early for me so I had to learn how to survive this nasty world on my own. But, be assured, I'd never ridicule or humiliate anyone that does. It doesn't mean you are weak, it just means you had a better life than me. We're all different and grew up with different advantages or disadvantages.
If we were meant to stay in one place, we'd have roots instead of feet. My little place on the interweb - Cyberian Radio 

Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to Motrukdriver for this post:
Marie (10-31-2017)
#27
Growing up in San Francisco in my teen years yah long hair bell bottoms, drugs, opened the door to sexual predators. Being non violent did not help. older men (my age now lol) looking for love in the wrong place were ever present, i soon learned to trust my intuition when I felt threatened ran the other way i would like to feel I was not alone in these experiences.
2015 RTR  adrian.schafgans@gmail.com
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to wagoneer for this post:
JustACarSoFar (11-10-2017)
#28
sooo not alooonee... so not!!   Cool Big Grin
title~ "Deliberate Discharge", 2 'Stinkin' Badges',  1 'Flying Manure Spreader'  1 'Pink Elephant' Big Grin
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to JustACarSoFar for this post:
wagoneer (11-10-2017)
#29
I second the concept presented by Motrukdriver that without the content you cannot show the substance. When someone asks, "How does that make you feel?" or "How do you feel about that?" and the response is, "I don't feel anything regarding that", the resulting looks and comments encourage a subject change. With our various backgrounds and personalities, a blanket statement such as "Men just don't go there." is similar to "What? Everyone likes horseradish." (I do think that two phrases get used interchangeably, "How do you feel about that" & "What do you think about that", and yet they are very different questions.)
Another view relates to over 40 years in heavy industry as a construction worker, primarily at oil refineries, chemical plants, steel mills, power houses, etc in both construction and demolition phases of the industry. It's rough work and the people are generally the same, rough. Thick skin is a prerequisite and if a subject is broached you either participate in the ensuing volley or you run, because you now wear a target. Perhaps some men "don't go there" in an effort to avoid wearing the target. Many times in the field, I've seen the equivalent of a pack of wolves descend upon some poor bastard simply because they could get under his skin (thin skin, opposite of the earlier thick skin reference) in a vicious and uncalled for attack. It's pathetic to witness and is no different from the bullying that some of our youth are exposed to, which in my youth resulted in blood on my knuckles. It may be possible to become desensitized to the idiosyncrasies of our species, which could then validate the idea of why some men don't go there.
Cheers, Rick
Add Thank You Reply
#30
(08-15-2017, 09:29 PM)wagoneer Wrote: One great lesson I learned from my mother was her ease to show her vulnerable and "soft" side the "not sure what to do side" and having been chastised ridiculed and at times humiliated often wonder why is this so? I want to believe we are all on a journey to learn.

Maybe part of the problem is that most men are afraid to open up and in order to distance themselves from pressure to open up, they mock those that do.  The hardest thing to do but yet the greatest therapy is to face oneself squarely in the mirror and observe.  

I did that by turning off the TV and music, to live alone, and to observe the thought traffic in my head.   It was a rough summer but the end result was amazing clarity into my self and life and now my head is quiet.
Add Thank You Reply


Forum Jump:


Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)

Powered By MyBB, © 2002-2018 MyBB Group.