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What about the ones left behind?
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(08-28-2017, 08:41 AM)Ballenxj Wrote: Ah, Super Tramp. That was frequently in my cassette deck in my 67 GMC van during the early eighties.
Anybody else notice in that song how many times "Goodbye Mary, and goodbye Jane" were sung in that sequence?
Was that a subliminal message?

Wow,  all these years I never noticed that! 

Cool
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#12
Kat

Have you ever had a friend come to you and say I wanted to move on but didn't because I didn't want to leave you behind? Real friends are not so selfish that they would hold you back from finding happiness. They say you will be missed, vow to stay in touch and may even want to plan to hang out. I even had a few offer to help just for the chance to hang out before I left.

What they do not do is make you feel even worse about leaving by laying a guilt trip on you or expressing anger. That is immaturity. Those with a crush either had plenty of time and were to insecure to act or you didn't see them that way.

One thing that may be part of the issue is this is a choice for you. It may be different if they thought you were moving because you had to take care of your folks or take a job, something you have no choice over. Then they would not see it as you choosing to go when you do not have to move away from them.

In any event saying good bye is hard. Stay strong, you only have a month to go.
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#13
In todays world with the cell phones & internet (Facebook, chat sites, forums etc), no one is really getting left behind. We have friends and family all over that we talk to daily......just sayin'
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One of the hardest lessons in my life, and I don't claim to have perfected it, has been learning to be honest when moving on, when relationships are changing, and when relationships are ending. We try to minimize the emotional pain for ourselves. And, because most of us are half-way decent humans, we try not to inflict emotional pain on others, at least when we don't think they deserve it. So, we say we'll get together when we won't. We say we'll stay in touch when we won't. We say "It's not you, it's me," when it's really them. We say, "But, I still love you," when we want them out of our lives. In theory, it's pretty simple. Be honest about what you're doing. Don't make promises you don't intend to keep. Don't solicit such commitments from others. So, yeah, simple. In theory. Of course, all of this can hurt like hell. But in the long run, the evasions don't help. Sometimes they just prolong a process that needs to end. I wish you and your friends well as your lives move apart. And don't be afraid to pull off the road and have a good cry if the spirit moves.
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[CHORUS:]
You Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free


[Image: angel.gif]Charlotte
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(09-01-2017, 02:39 PM)Charlotte\s Web Wrote: [CHORUS:]
You Just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free


[Image: angel.gif]Charlotte
I once had a gf  named "  Gail "


So it was " jump on a whale,  Gail"

Pat
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#17
At least there are people who will miss you when you are gone ...
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#18
Jim said it perfectly.

And I'll add, the ones who had a crush were never truly your friends, because they had strings attached to their friendship. A friendship that's a means to an end isn't really a friendship.

Tell the ones you'll miss to stay in touch digitally, and tell the rest thanks and goodbye.
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(08-28-2017, 08:59 AM)Every Road Leads Home Wrote: Life has a funny way of working things out and there's an old saying that always proves true......never say never.   How can you possibly know if you'll ever see them again or not?   Your real friends will let you go, the selfish ones will beg you to stay.

I spent a couple of nights camping with two brothers on the Big Island of Hawaii.  Never expected to see them again when we parted ways.  4 years later I'm pumping gas in the middle of no where Nevada and who comes peddling up on their bikes.....those same two brothers.  They biked around the big island the year I was there, and now they were doing a ride to Mexico.  It was getting late in the evening so we shared a motel, a meal, some stories and parted ways once again.  Wonder when i'll run into them again?
I love this story....where friends can pick up anywhere and able to move on.
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(08-28-2017, 06:21 AM)RoamingKat Wrote: I feel like I have been put on the spot over this.   I don't want to hurt anyone, but I don't want to feel like I am leading anyone on.
 I'm betting it's not the first time you've dealt with this and it never gets much easier, does it!?  I really 'get' the feeling you express.

I can't offer more help than what you likely already know but..a small warning...     I've found a pattern, in some, 
that once they sense and know you are leaving they get angry.  *fear to hurt to anger* that emotional swing can get nasty~ so be careful.


We are still emotional / sensitive creatures so when others pressure us with that* type drama* we certainly are affected.

Try to remember your survival skills, that *spot* you feel put under is an emotional net with no substance. It feels real, 
 and is intended to, but keeping your health and sanity as priority to protect yourself from the situation you already
KNOW is not what you need.  The momentary turmoil will pass.

~hugs~

PS absolutely LOVE that supertramp* song! have for years n years! LOL
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