Thread Rating:
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
WOMENS' FORUM: Do you use your van to take vacations from unhappy husbands
#1
Sometimes my husband is so unpleasant I need to get away. It gives me security to know that I can get away and take a nap, meditate, think, shop and be around nice people whenever I need to. Hubs doesn't hit me but he has acted in abusive ways at times. 
I've got Big Girl, Chevy Express Cargo Van 2500, fixed up with a bed , quilts, iPad and cell phone charger, granola bars and juice. 
Anyway, just wondering if I'm the only one that uses her van as a retreat.
2017 Chevy Express 2500 Van, her name is Big Girl. She is no frills and much loved. Heart
Add Thank You Reply
The following 4 users say Thank You to SilverVoyager for this post:
dawnann7 (11-23-2017), cheapnewbie (11-13-2017), Charlotte's Web (11-11-2017), JustACarSoFar (11-10-2017)
#2
hey there  .. I'm sorry, I'm still chuckling at the title..  and it's not truly a laughing matter.  I'm willing to bet .. LOTS  that you are
not alone in this.

I'm singularly splendorous~ meself.. but in the past, you betcha! I found any where I could hide to get away from just
the stress of emotional turmoil roller coaster rage etc.  I'm sorry to hear of your troubles, I recall what that feels like.

I'm Positive other gals use their rigs for such Peace of Mind.  Heart
title~ "Deliberate Discharge", 2 'Stinkin' Badges',  1 'Flying Manure Spreader'  1 'Pink Elephant' Big Grin
Add Thank You Reply
The following 2 users say Thank You to JustACarSoFar for this post:
SilverVoyager (11-11-2017), Charlotte's Web (11-11-2017)
#3
I was married once upon a time! 

The marriage was fortunately short lived,  but Oh!  how I would have suffered without time away!  My spouse
was neither abusive, nor much of a cad or bounder.  He was neither fiscally irresponsible or lacking in social skills.  He was attractive & well educated.  But somehow it just didn't add up.

His great sin was that  he lacked wit, imagination, & joi de vivre.   The very air that I breathe!

He bored me.  (A fate worse than death!)   I was essentially, elementally, invisible to him---simply beyond his comprehension.  I never felt so alone as when in his company.  I left him rather soon after our marriage.  

Luckily for me, I am feisty & independent.  No bitterness.  Few regrets.   At heart, a Zen approach to life.

Do whatever it takes to live an authentic life!
Heart Charlotte
Add Thank You Reply
The following 5 users say Thank You to Charlotte's Web for this post:
dawnann7 (11-23-2017), Cancan (11-13-2017), SilverVoyager (11-11-2017), dragonflyinthesky (11-11-2017), JustACarSoFar (11-10-2017)
#4
(11-10-2017, 10:35 PM)JustACarSoFar Wrote: "...I'm singularly splendorous..."


What a gift you are to this forum!   
Heart Charlotte
Add Thank You Reply
#5
Well I don’t have a van anymore (died in September) but I do use my car to escape at times. My car is pretty much well set up and being short I have plenty of room without removing seats. One thing about my husband is he tries to control what he can which isn’t much with me (aka must get a new car so I don’t get stranded and had to be in a certain price range). He had control over that because he makes the money to pay for it. So yes I do that.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to Kia girl for this post:
SilverVoyager (11-11-2017)
#6
In order to buy the van I referred to how WE could camp out, take day trips together, etc. I work on it mostly when he's gone for a few hours so he won't take charge and control everything.
Taking two hour vacations as needed is much easier than a divorce. We've been married almost twenty years and he's almost 70 and so grumpy he would never find another woman to marry and take care of him!
P.S. I'm much younger than him! Lol, not really, I just act childish.
2017 Chevy Express 2500 Van, her name is Big Girl. She is no frills and much loved. Heart
Add Thank You Reply
The following 4 users say Thank You to SilverVoyager for this post:
mayble (11-13-2017), JustACarSoFar (11-11-2017), dragonflyinthesky (11-11-2017), Kia girl (11-11-2017)
#7
he's almost 70 and so grumpy he would never find another woman to marry and take care of him!

My husband is 69 and I am 59. Is it the age? My husband can be grumpy as well, and...he can have a very negative attitude  alot of the time. I know a lot of it is dealing with our business. Im hoping selling it will help. We hopefully will be traveling in a motor home (him) and a van ( me). So often we will be together but it gives us the opportunity to do things by ourselves, for example I can go to womens gatherings without him. Or I can  workamp and he can stay in his motor home. Nora
Add Thank You Reply
#8
No matter how much you like them -- or don't, you still need a quiet place for yourself. I've only had the van for three weeks and it's become my lounging spot.
..................................................
1997 Class B Dodge van 3500.
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to bigsallysmom for this post:
JustACarSoFar (11-13-2017)
#9
No, but I'm in a lesbian-marriage. If my wife was abusive, however, then yes I would take off with the car and do some camping as a time-out.
"Home is where you park it."

2002 Saturn SC1 "S.IX: Phoebe"
Happy home of Karen and Jamie
Add Thank You Reply
The following 1 user says Thank You to S.IX:Phoebe for this post:
JustACarSoFar (11-13-2017)
#10
Do you use your van to take vacations from unhappy husbands ?
YES, YES, YES! My partner is not abusive, just the opposite, he smothers me with kindness. It may sound strange but it is possible for somone to be too attentive. He watches for every opportunity to do things for me and it drives me crazy. I was a single mother of three boys with my own business before we got together and now I feel so confined. I had a Eurovan that I traveled in for months at a time in pure delight at my freedom. He has depression and anxiety and does not want to travel so I am free to go on my own. My vehicle is definitely my happy place.
Add Thank You Reply
The following 2 users say Thank You to cheapnewbie for this post:
dawnann7 (11-23-2017), JustACarSoFar (11-13-2017)


Possibly Related Threads...
Thread Author Replies Views Last Post
  WOMENS’ FORUM: Kentucky to Texas Cammalu 2 282 11-10-2017, 11:04 AM
Last Post: Cammalu
  WOMENS' FORUM: Do you have any problems sleeping when you're out RV-Hopeful 18 1,093 09-01-2017, 02:21 PM
Last Post: TrainChaser
  WOMENS' FORUM: Pining to be with other vandweller snowbirds KatBalouE350 11 1,031 07-23-2017, 12:41 AM
Last Post: TrainChaser

Forum Jump:


Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)

Powered By MyBB, © 2002-2018 MyBB Group.