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Need encouragement
I’m convinced I already made this post but I’m guessing I was just really tired and probably even dreamt that it happened, haha!! 

It’s November 20th today. That means it’s exactly 10 days before the cord is cut and I’m officially a full time car dweller. I’ve been sleeping in the car every night this month, transitioning myself. I have no doubts that this is the right path for me.

However, I can’t help but be nervous. The big change is about to happen. The official start of a new life where I straighten my back/shoulders and face people judging my life choices.  They already judge me for being vegan, and for having the sides of my head shaved, and for being a minimalist. Adding more to the pile. I have to talk to myself often... remind myself that this is the true me... and that people who are rude or judgmental arnt the right ppl in my life anyways, and I’m not right for them.

It just sucks when those people are your own family.

People are starting to ask more and more details about where I’m living and I’m trying my best to make it sound like an average living condition (ex. A nice small space for me and my dog with no irritating roomates!) . That way I can try to direct the convo towards something more exciting like my work or hobbies... but occasionally someone will keep poking at the living situation and I’m trying really hard to know what’s to say. 

Sometimes I dream of dream of just taking off in the world and leaving my family behind.... and that kinda breaks my heart to say. Our family has always been really close and supportive , so having them judge me now is a big shock for me. 

It’s hard to face this alone, so I’m really grateful for you guys. I’m grateful to have people online who not only understand me, but cheer me on. I need a little bit more of that. It’s so hard when you’re trying to do the thing that will make you truly happy and everyone hates you for it cause it’s not what THEY want.
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Linda Cripple-Creek (11-24-2017)
.....some people dream and never succeed, some people wish and never come true, but you, my friend, have got this. Go out and LIVE!
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I think you’ll love it and do just fine. Wishing you all the best.
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Free_to_be_me (11-20-2017)
Live outside their "box" and have fun! You sound like someone I'd like to meet. Spread your wings!
Exclamation And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. — Abraham Lincoln
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Be straight up about your situation. Those that accept are the ones to keep close. Those that don't, ask them if they rather support and stay close, or have you walk away? Those are the choices. Seek out your light and path forward. Don't waste any of your precious life on others negatives. As I like to say, run like hell. Away from negatives, situations and people. Be prepared to accept the realities of your choices. Ruminating and worry are wasted emotions and energy. Always look and move forward. It's your life.
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Free_to_be_me (11-20-2017)
Find one family member who is ok with the idea and speak to them often. It will slowly filter out to the rest.
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Open your mind to being selfish for once. Be the loving, giving, helpful, caring and sharing person I'm sure you are to everyone you can. But when it comes to YOUR health, wealth, comfort, space and sanity BE SELFISH. There's nothing wrong with that as long as you're not imposing harm on anyone else.

Shun taunts of misery, I'm sure you've heard, it loves company. Guilt trips, negative scrutiny, ignorance, fear, pity are all just affront for those unaware of their own conditioning/addiction to systemic reliance.

Think of the MATRIX... Some people really don't realize there are other ways to life and fear anyone that steps away from the accepted norms.

I didn't graduate high school, have no interest in college, Loved my military service, Extremely happily divorced, my last full time job grossed very high 6figures per year, took a near 4 year vacation along with building my mom a home and remodeling my grandmother's all before 35yrs old and I miss my dog Sad . Not the accepted path to structured "Success" - All while peers, colleagues, family members and associates nagging and bugging me about my life decisions. Why why why sounds lot like wahh wah wahhhhh to me most of the time...

I always wonder why are they wasting so much energy on what I am doing when they can be much more productive and effective at working on their own lives and choices.

Don't let their lack of direction or fear dissuade YOU from the possibilities and experiences you have.
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^^^ Very well said Classyglobal. Attitude and focus are everything as well as staying positive.
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(11-20-2017, 12:50 PM)Free_to_be_me Wrote: Sometimes I dream of dream of just taking off in the world and leaving my family behind.... and that kinda breaks my heart to say.

I'm sure you've thought of this but I'll put it out there anyway. Is there anyone in your family you can tell this to? Anyone you could open your heart to and tell them they'll lose you if they don't learn to accept you as you are? Let them know how your heart is breaking?

You sound like someone who knows what they want and is going to go out and get it. Continue being your authentic self. You will figure it out (hopefully sooner than I did). Wishing you all the best as you head into your adventurous new life! Heart
It's little I care what path I take,
And where it leads it's little I care,
But out of this house, lest my heart break,
I must go, and off somewhere! 
 ~ Edna St. Vincent Millay
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Free_to_be_me (11-24-2017)
I know what you mean.  This past summer I spent a lot of time car camping and was met with the same reactions.  I just didn't care.

My situation is probably a bit different from yours.  I am retired and managed to build up a comfortable retirement nest egg.  I am by no means poor.  I chose to live a while in my car.

I want to spend my retirement years seeing as much of the USA as I can.  Just after I retired, I took my big class-A up to Alaska with my wife.  When we got back home, my wife made it very clear that she didn't want to go on any more trips in the RV.  I saw no sense in taking a large bus for me to take solo boondocking trips, so I started setting up my Prius as a camper.  I used my home and a condo that we have in Colorado as base camps and spent the entire summer traveling through out the south west.  I camped mainly on BLM land and parks.  I camped on the sea shore and forests.  I had a wonderful summer (except for the time that a cop knocked on my door at midnight ...) 

My biggest issue was with relatives who couldn't believe that I could be comfortable and content in something as small as a Prius.  But I was and had a wonderful summer.

This fall I was able to sell the class-A (37 feet long) and used the money to help purchase a smaller class-B (21 feet long).  It's still small and capable of being used for boondocking.  I've already taken it for a week long trip to my home town and to see a bunch of my relatives.  I still get poor reactions from some of my relatives, but they are also the ones that I know are one paycheck from having to learn to cook cat food casserole, so I really don't care what their reactions are. 

I'm enjoying my retirement years and am making the most of every day.  And that's all that really counts.
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