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#11
Mind over Matter:

Those that mind don't matter

Those that matter don't mind.

another $.02 from the peanut in the gallery Smile
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#12
(11-20-2017, 12:50 PM)Free_to_be_me Wrote: I’m convinced I already made this post but I’m guessing I was just really tired and probably even dreamt that it happened, haha!! 

It’s November 20th today. That means it’s exactly 10 days before the cord is cut and I’m officially a full time car dweller. I’ve been sleeping in the car every night this month, transitioning myself. I have no doubts that this is the right path for me.

However, I can’t help but be nervous. The big change is about to happen. The official start of a new life where I straighten my back/shoulders and face people judging my life choices.  They already judge me for being vegan, and for having the sides of my head shaved, and for being a minimalist. Adding more to the pile. I have to talk to myself often... remind myself that this is the true me... and that people who are rude or judgmental arnt the right ppl in my life anyways, and I’m not right for them.

It just sucks when those people are your own family.

People are starting to ask more and more details about where I’m living and I’m trying my best to make it sound like an average living condition (ex. A nice small space for me and my dog with no irritating roomates!) . That way I can try to direct the convo towards something more exciting like my work or hobbies... but occasionally someone will keep poking at the living situation and I’m trying really hard to know what’s to say. 

Sometimes I dream of dream of just taking off in the world and leaving my family behind.... and that kinda breaks my heart to say. Our family has always been really close and supportive , so having them judge me now is a big shock for me. 

It’s hard to face this alone, so I’m really grateful for you guys. I’m grateful to have people online who not only understand me, but cheer me on. I need a little bit more of that. It’s so hard when you’re trying to do the thing that will make you truly happy and everyone hates you for it cause it’s not what THEY want.

I know and understand how you feel.  I am starting this new life too.

You are doing the things that are making you happy so sometimes that means telling everyone else back off (in a nice way if possible ).

My children are supportive since I have that, but I am very nervous and scared, but doing it anyway.

I have been living in my rv for the past 3 weeks getting use to it. I have a rabbit name Puff that has been out there with me for a week niw, getting use to this new life too. Sad, but.  I think he is doing better than I am lol.

After Thanksgiving I am hitting road.  

Wishing you luck with this new  we are embarking on.
Tongue Living the dream with my rabbit,  scared but doing it anyway! 
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#13
Be the master of your own ship and do what is right for YOU. When you are living in a way that makes you happy, then it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks or says because you are content (I know its so much easier said than done).  I feel like once you’re content and happy that itll make you more powerful as a friend and family member, because no matter if you live in a cardboard box or a multimillion dollar mansion, when you are truly happy people will notice and seek out your advice and opinion. Expect people to not understand because it is unusual compared to the way that most in society live and think, but that is what makes people like you so special because you have such courage and will most likely end up being so much happier by breaking the chains of the masses and doing your own thing. So put on your armor and be fierce with sticking to what brings you peace. Dont tremble when facing judgment because judgements are just an illiusion, they arent really anything except an opinion that will eventually fade and be forgotten. Stay strong and pursue your own unique happiness and everything will be just fine I bet!
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#14
Two points -- 1) you are so far ahead of the game by knowing who you are and what makes you happy. And, 2) Family will always, always be the first ones to try to drag you back, knock you down, distract, derail and discourage you. I think it's that thing where they "know" they know you better than you know yourself -- but what I KNOW is that you can't listen to the noise outside you. Listen to the music inside.
I'm 65.5 yrs along; have a 2006 Kia Rio; divorced - happily; & ready to get this show on the road!
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I think you guys are right...and it might be in my best interest to start talking about my plans to travel the world. Let them start focusing on enjoying what time we have left with eachother. If they still have a problem with me, great, no hard feelings about leaving then Smile

Thanks for your support everyone. It’s really helping Me
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#16
Don't put too much focus on family... I see this wayyyyyyy too much. People will base life decisions on what their family thinks. Its very damaging, Some families are great, but some aren't. Every person is different, and have different ideas about life, love, eating, dressing, what have you. As someone who has always been the black sheep because I didn't live with the focus of being trendy and popular, I can tell you to seek out friends, or even random strangers, like you are doing in this post. Especially a best friend, they most likely know you way better than family, and will help and encourage you.

and don't let anyone tell you you're doing something stupid, if you are doing something that you're passionate about then thats all that matters in life. NO ONE is promised tomorrow, and we should all be grateful for waking up.
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#17
(11-20-2017, 12:50 PM)Free_to_be_me Wrote: It’s hard to face this alone, so I’m really grateful for you guys. I’m grateful to have people online who not only understand me, but cheer me on. I need a little bit more of that. It’s so hard when you’re trying to do the thing that will make you truly happy and everyone hates you for it cause it’s not what THEY want.

I think you are at the right place and will find the support you seek here.
No hurry ... No worry
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(11-20-2017, 12:50 PM)Free_to_be_me Wrote: I’m convinced I already made this post but I’m guessing I was just really tired and probably even dreamt that it happened, haha!! 

It’s November 20th today. That means it’s exactly 10 days before the cord is cut and I’m officially a full time car dweller. I’ve been sleeping in the car every night this month, transitioning myself. I have no doubts that this is the right path for me.

However, I can’t help but be nervous. The big change is about to happen. The official start of a new life where I straighten my back/shoulders and face people judging my life choices.  They already judge me for being vegan, and for having the sides of my head shaved, and for being a minimalist. Adding more to the pile. I have to talk to myself often... remind myself that this is the true me... and that people who are rude or judgmental arnt the right ppl in my life anyways, and I’m not right for them.

It just sucks when those people are your own family.

People are starting to ask more and more details about where I’m living and I’m trying my best to make it sound like an average living condition (ex. A nice small space for me and my dog with no irritating roomates!) . That way I can try to direct the convo towards something more exciting like my work or hobbies... but occasionally someone will keep poking at the living situation and I’m trying really hard to know what’s to say. 

Sometimes I dream of dream of just taking off in the world and leaving my family behind.... and that kinda breaks my heart to say. Our family has always been really close and supportive , so having them judge me now is a big shock for me. 

It’s hard to face this alone, so I’m really grateful for you guys. I’m grateful to have people online who not only understand me, but cheer me on. I need a little bit more of that. It’s so hard when you’re trying to do the thing that will make you truly happy and everyone hates you for it cause it’s not what THEY want.

How did your situation turn out?  I've wanted to be nomadic for a long time, but I hate the thought of everyone I know feeling bad about my life choices.  I don't want to let them down anymore, but I'm afraid I'm letting myself down trying to meet other peoples expectations rather than my own.
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I have a similar problem. I'm feeling a little guilty because, even though my children are doing their best to be supportive, they are worrying about my taking off on my own. They're not really against it - just kinda worried sick. My son jokingly said, "Mom! It's inconvenient!" I promised him that he would not have to fly 3000 miles to identify my dead bloated body (poor kid!). He's making lots of plans for outfitting a van for me, but i think it's because of "traveling envy." Ha. I'm not particularly concerned about what anybody else thinks of my decision; i just don't want to be worrying the kids. But, being all cozied up in a boring, going nowhere (safe) apartment is not my idea of living - it feels like a prison. So, i have cut the ties and have to be on the road by this time next week. The scary part of that is, i still have whole rooms that need to be packed up, donated or trashed and I'm running out of time.. And scared. Not afraid of traveling alone; afraid of meeting people, of checking to see whether this unique, amazing group of ppl will actually be as accepting as everyone here in the forums seems. So far, the encouragement everyone offers in general has helped me so much. Thank you guys! I'll get there, and it won't be on a guilt trip...

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#20
(11-20-2017, 12:50 PM)Free_to_be_me Wrote:  I have no doubts that this is the right path for me.
However, I can’t help but be nervous. The big change is about to happen. The official start of a new life where I straighten my back/shoulders and face people judging my life choices.  They already judge me for being vegan, and for having the sides of my head shaved, and for being a minimalist. 
It just sucks when those people are your own family.

Far too much weight given to what the family thinks about you being a nomad. You might be used to being judged by now, based on the above statement, or you may regret not eating hamburger and you may hate your hairstyle (yeah, I didn't think so). Mom got pregnant & boom, you have another brother/sister... you weren't consulted. You can choose your friends but you're stuck with your family. Still, far too much weight given to what they think. They're just people that you may or may not want in your life based on how they treat you. Being related is irrelevant. I've read, "If you're not for me then you're against me", and there may be a third group that is just indifferent. We choose to have close to us people that are in one of these categories, and then we are happy or we are not.
On the other hand, being judgmental is nothing more than having an opinion and probably sharing it with people. No harm/no foul unless someone takes the stand saying, "I'm right and you're wrong!", to which you reply, "Prove it." This generally disarms the attack or you could be "talking to the wall".
Cheers, Rick
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