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I was very moved by a thread about judgments today and thought I'd share this for anyone interested in bettering their communication-- it was helpful for me and I'm passing it on--- Heart   

http://erinblaskie.com/3-questions-to-as...versation/



Deep peace to us all for a more gentle and loving way to interact,

Gigi
1.  Is it breaking forum rules?

There are times when I am in the middle of a post, and realize I got sucked into a troll hole.   (Is it true you are seeing a Psychiatrist for being abusive?)  This is so wrong on many levels, and will only lead to problems.  No fighting is Bob's basic unwritten rule.

2.  Will it help the conversation?  When several people agree with a post, it is not necessary to join the pack.  When you have a different perspective... be diplomatic.  (see #3) 

3.  Are you talking to a wall?  Sometimes a person will ask for opinions, but actually only wants to hear ones that agree with their viewpoint.   Huh  This site has a few walls. You learn.   

The real fun comes in when you start a new post like this one.   Cool
i Enjoyed the article Gigi thank you
according to that i should never make a post,all i got is useless really bad jokes and such,there's got to be some room for us with that special kinda stupid isn't there
(01-31-2016, 08:55 PM)Gary68 Wrote: [ -> ]according to that i should never make a post,all i got is useless really bad jokes and such,there's got to be some room for us with that special kinda stupid isn't there

Plenty of room! Just so long as they aren't unkind, or not easily taken as unkind.
Bob
Reminds me of the Wheatland festival.  Theres a rule you can't get angry, about anything.  Someone took down your tent and put their car there while you were taking a leak?  Happy Wheatland! 
And by the way, people on this forum weren't very kind to the guy who wanted to do a podcast about van living.
Article was meh to me.

I try to be as nice as possible most of the time but a lot of people could use  a great big slap in the face from reality..  I'm honestly a bit sick of the  track most people are taking today where everyone has to be so very PC and care about everyone's "feels".   

This is the real world and it runs on big boy rules.

Edit:  When I was a kid we were taught "sticks and stones, blah blah blah".   We were taught to stand up for ourselves and to bullies.  

Now you are taught that you are a special snow flake and should be coddled.
(02-01-2016, 12:13 PM)HarmonicaBruce Wrote: [ -> ]And by the way, people on this forum weren't very kind to the guy who wanted to do a podcast about van living.

Call that the law of Vanma.  Kind of like Karma, But it runs over dogma.   Angel  It takes everyone to play nice.   Cool  

At RTR there were a lot of people documenting it.  They were nice, polite, and extremely respectful of personal feelings.  

We missed you Bruce.  There was even a designated bath house set up for you.  Smile
(02-01-2016, 01:15 PM)nobodyG17 Wrote: [ -> ]Article was meh to me.

I try to be as nice as possible most of the time but a lot of people could use  a great big slap in the face from reality..  I'm honestly a bit sick of the  track most people are taking today where everyone has to be so very PC and care about everyone's "feels".   

This is the real world and it runs on big boy rules.

Edit:  When I was a kid we were taught "sticks and stones, blah blah blah".   We were taught to stand up for ourselves and to bullies.  

Now you are taught that you are a special snow flake and should be coddled.
well.........in my world  most folk including myself  are basically  "nice"  or  "jerks", with moments of crossover  and then there are just the jerks...bottom line.... pick one.
(02-01-2016, 07:28 PM)Tjaybird Wrote: [ -> ]well.........in my world  most folk including myself  are basically  "nice"  or  "jerks", with moments of crossover  and then there are just the jerks...bottom line.... pick one.

I live in a different world and refuse to pick one!

If the world were that black and white things would be so much easier.   How can you live life and see things that way?
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