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Why isn't there a "Men Only" forum? I don't know about the rest of you, but I could really use somewhere to vent and have someone to talk to myself, and I'm damn sure, not ashamed to ask either.
We had one a few years back but old men get mean and cantankerous so Bob had to shut it down!
@bullfrog
True, this, and I can understand, I know human nature, but hey, I had to say it, right.
Besides, I have to try, I have no one to talk to, and I'm being advised by not only my doctors but my daughter's doctors and social worker to get her and myself out of this destructive relationship as soon as we can any way we can, but that means throwing a helpless woman on the streets, I can't do that, there has to be another way! I've been trying to make this work for 20 years now, and have had a disabled daughter in the picture for sixteen of those years. Holy crap! I've walked the valley of the shadow of death many times, always because I put myself in a bad situation, I own property down here, and I'm climbing out of the valley one more time, but this has been the most challenging climb of my life, and if I fail my little girl pays the price. A pressure cooker situation, naw, right?
I don't mean to sound flippant here, but there are probably forums out there that are specifically set up for that, and which have knowledgeable personnel who are trained in such matters.
bullfrog Wrote:old men get mean and cantankerous so Bob had to shut it down!
There is plenty of that even without a special section.
I don't mean to get all emotional and all. Still, I've watched this forum for some time now and decided to join because I want to travel with or near others who have disabilities and challenges like ours. Everybody works together for the benefit of all, sounds corny, doesn't it, but is it? Here's one of my concerns, and I'm throwing it out there because it's a real issue. I'm an old man, and my daughter, because her mother is blowing bubbles, and can't be there for her, needs the influence of women. My goodness, I have no idea how to shop for her underclothes? I have a few older ladies around here, getting fewer, that help out with such things, but I have to pay them. Being that I'm a mechanic, I'd be willing to fix whatever needed fixing on any woman, or couples, vehicle if they'ed help me with shopping for clothes for a 16-year old special needs and autistic daughter. Is there anybody out there who understands what I'm up against here? There is no such thing as a magic wand, believe me, I've looked!
Now, if I've embarrassed myself, I hope there is someone honest enough to tell me so, because that's what I need, a little honesty because I'm so tired of folks blowing fluff up my posterior telling me all is well if you just do this or that, yeah, righttttt ....
If Dingfelder were around, he could say something relevant, but it seems to me there 2 different issues here. One is a sociological issue that needs professional guidance, and the other is what we deal more with on this forum, which are the practicalities of living cheap in vehicles. To me the former requires professional attention and not just amateur opinions. Way beyond my boundaries.
(10-28-2019, 11:39 PM)Cajunwolf Wrote: [ -> ]Besides, I have to try, I have no one to talk to, and I'm being advised by not only my doctors but my daughter's doctors and social worker to get her and myself out of this destructive relationship as soon as we can any way we can, but that means throwing a helpless woman on the streets, I can't do that, there has to be another way! I've been trying to make this work for 20 years now, and have had a disabled daughter in the picture for sixteen of those years. Holy crap! I've walked the valley of the shadow of death many times, always because I put myself in a bad situation, I own property down here, and I'm climbing out of the valley one more time, but this has been the most challenging climb of my life, and if I fail my little girl pays the price. A pressure cooker situation, naw, right?
I can't do anything but applaud your courage and determination.  Parents (good ones) are the most important  part of society. I unfortunately took the " cowards" way and decided early on that I couldn't meet that challenge. I know the rewards of parenting are great but so is the possible loss. I knew that I would rather lose nothing than lose everything. And now... thats all I have...nothing.. as deep as your valley may be at least it has purpose.
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