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Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - Kenny P - 03-29-2020

I don’t really know why I felt like posting this but here it goes.
I’ve been with a girl for over 5 years, we have been living together.
The house is in here name. I helped her with $6,000 toward closing costs to buy this house.
I also paid $700 per month to help with the mortgage. Plus tons of money I have spent toward upgrades to this house.
The only problem is that the house is in her name, and she got mad, and now she wants me gone.
I used to have a gmc Safari that I converted, very cheaply, no solar or anything, and I lived in that off and on.
I knew this day would come again where she would get mad and kick me out so upgraded my van to a Ford E350 extended body. I recently converted it, also very cheaply.
So I will be roughing it starting Tuesday.
I don’t think it’s legal for her to kick me out so soon but I don’t care, she is making it hard to stay here, I’ve been sleeping/living in the cold garage the past few days.
The reason she wants me gone is because I’ve been wanting to buy a place of my own, which she has known about since I met her. I have money saved and could have bought a house 2 years ago but I wanted to wait and see what happened to the housing market. Prices are very high.
So I recently got a second loan application in with another lender and also got a real estate agent lined up.
She likes to snoop my phone while I sleep and she saw that I did those things and BAM, I’m outa here.
I think she was hoping I would change my mind and decide to stay with her.
She has two daughters, 11 and 14 who are very misbehaved and disrespectful and it’s just hard to be around.
I’ve always wanted to buy a small house on  an acre or more so I can grow my own food and build a shop and work on things.
I don’t feel like that’s a crime.
Wish me luck.. No sink (yet), no power other than my starter battery (good for charging my phone and HOPEFUPLY making a pot of coffee in the morning).
I will be roughing it.
Rant over.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - riptorn - 03-29-2020

Been there.
!. No documentation of investment. 
   Call it rent in the wind (I think you know that)
2. Sounds like your dealing with a flake
3. 2 young delinquent daughters in the house. 
   You should have NEVER spent a night in that house!

I raised my daughter alone (now 25) She had lots of sleep overs growing up. I never allowed one unless a mom stayed over to chaperone them. For my safety.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - riptorn - 03-29-2020

Also since you said no paper work. It's legal.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - DannyB1954 - 03-29-2020

If in your State you can claim domestic partnership, or even real estate partnership, you may be entitled to your down payment and half of what the property increased in value while you were there. Save your proof of helping with the down payment as she can say the $700 a month was just your rent. Renters do not not furnish funds for a landlord's down payment.
Better establish value soon as I think property values will plummet because of Corona.

I once rented a garage from a lady. After cleaning painting installing lights etc, she decided she wanted the garage back for her own use. I removed the lights, returned the single bulb light in the center, and painted the interior flat black, ( was similar to the dirty old wood that was there when I moved in. ). When I moved out she was upset. You didn't need to do that she said. I said I know I wanted to.
Moral of story, do not invest time or money upgrading a property belonging to another. In many cases the landlord will think I can now rent it to someone else for more money.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - Bwanderin - 03-30-2020

That really sucks and I am sorry to hear of your pain.  But, as you shared, the good news is you can now take back care of yourself and your future.

How many times have you seen people trying to use, manipulate or change their partner or family member to meet their own needs instead of loving, respecting and honoring who they are? It sure messes with your head when you actually realize its happening and its hard to make rational sense of it esp. when you know you've been upfront and clear. Sounds like the signs were there, but being human, we dismiss them - that is until we can't anymore. That's a hard realization. 

Try really hard to be kind to yourself as you get through this one step at a time. Try not to look back too much as you are blessed to have a dream and the means and the courage to go after it.  Glad you have your van!


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - travelaround - 03-30-2020

I agree with the person who wrote you should never have spent the night in the home with two difficult young girls. That's just asking for trouble. You're lucky to get out of the situation without being accused of anything worse than wanting to buy a home of your own.

Good thing you have a nice van to move into. It is a somewhat rough lifestyle but definitely will get you through until you find the real estate you want to buy. Go have yourself an adventure. And seriously, if wanting to buy real estate is what broke up this relationship, then what B and C just said, "Good riddance." Honestly, it seems like it had to be more than that. Maybe there were commitment issues... like, you never even got married, and wanted to live elsewhere?


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - tx2sturgis - 03-30-2020

She must be REALLY GOOD in bed!

Cool


Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - JeanInaBox - 03-30-2020

Yep..,
You actually are the winner in this situation.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - Dingfelder - 03-31-2020

Count this as a lesson. I agree with Jean, above, and travelaround. You got off cheap, at least in comparison to what could have happened.

Sounds like you had a lot of hope, but pointed it in the wrong direction. That's always what has hurt me the worst, too. I hope you spend your hope better next time. And in the meantime ... take care of and respect yourself. It's unlikely anybody else reliable is going to do it for you at all, much for any length of time.

Pay yourself first.


RE: Getting kicked out of my place in 3 days. Back to the van I go. - 1shemp - 03-31-2020

Good Luck.