You Ain't Right Club

[maki2]

Remember this, She does not know how to cope with those feelings of having somehow failed in her responsibility to be a good parent to you. When you are a success then she feels successful. When you struggle she struggles with feelings of her own of being a failure. When you start to relate to the fact that you are tied together in this situation you can begin by talking about it. You can suggest new ways of talking that don't make both of your feel like failures. Part of becoming an adult is to take a look at things not as an injured child but also seeing them from another angle, seeing the impact of the situation on both parties. The transition is not easy, it takes deliberate awareness to reach a real understanding of the family dynamics.