09-28-2019, 08:43 PM
(09-28-2019, 08:19 PM)maki2 Wrote: Remember this, She does not know how to cope with those feelings of having somehow failed in her responsibility to be a good parent to you. When you are a success then she feels successful. When you struggle she struggles with feelings of her own of being a failure.
Still no excuse to say something so demeaning as to say I'm a "hobo" knowing she meant it in a disapproving manner. If she can't speak to me respectfully, as far as I'm concerned, she has no right to demand respect from me. I'm close to never speaking to her again. She hadn't been this mean to me in a long time, and I am shocked.
And her feelings of failure are her problem not mine. I'm not going to feel sorry for her anymore like I did in the past when she would admit that to me. This is the last straw.
And I'm also too old to let her get me down. I have to and want to keep the job I have that I happen to enjoy.
I'm staying away from my mom as much as possible for a while.
And by the way, if my uncle who had died had ever asked me to leave when I was still there, I woulda respected his wishes because he woulda never put me down or been mean to me like my mom and other uncle was.
Judmental people.
I also said all I could say to them about the difference between my uncle and them. I was more grateful to my uncle because he helped me without never putting me down. My mom did.
She'll have to get over it. It's not my problem, and I choose not to make it my problem.
By the way, I'm not angry with anyone here. I'm just choosing not to take responsibility for my mom's feelings and/or unhappiness anymore.
And I also question whether or not my mom is a narcissist. Because I'm discovering that maybe the only reason she helped me was to cover her own behind as to not ruin her reputation.
So close to being done with her for good.
I have a good job that I like why now treat me like crap? (And I say this rhetorically not requiring a response.)
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(This post was last modified: 09-28-2019, 08:46 PM by JuliaAnne2018.)